Dating for the older person
Let’s take a look at nine things you (probably) didn’t know about dating for older adults: It seems counter-intuitive to say that people characterized by one attribute — how old they are — don’t care as much about age when looking for a companion, but it’s true.
Young people are incredibly age-prejudiced, to such an extent that age is one of the most important filter criteria used to find a match on online dating sites. Age is the second-most important attribute used to help users determine if they’re interested in a potential match (after the photo).
Justin has had people come to him using household products as lubricants- shampoo, hand cream and even cooking oil.
“There does need to be perhaps a focus on trying to make services more older people friendly.” In many ways it is no surprise that older people are taking risks.
They see each other most days, but Carole says: “It’s more exciting seeing each other when you don’t see each other all the time.” David was keen to avoid the compromising involved by sharing each other’s space.
“You don’t want to be in a close, tight relationship again with all that involves, with all the sort of mundane things.” Throughout our research we have repeatedly heard how this second chance at love and sex was entirely unexpected.
Margaret, 67 from Oxfordshire told us: “We still feel as though we have a right to be a sexual being as well as everything else. ” “Younger people nowadays must think: ‘Oh God, that’s gross, you know, granny’s at it,'” Myra, 67, in Essex, told us.
But at it they are, and a third of those who are single told us they too would like to meet someone new.
For some women, it has only been in later years that they achieved orgasm for the first time. '” Having had conventional relationships in the past, lots of people we spoke to are choosing to have relationships on different terms today.
“It’s the secret sex life of your parents and grandparents.” That’s what one 70-year-old woman in Somerset told Channel 4 News.
In fact, 51 per cent of people over 60 told us they are sexually active and many describe enjoying a late sexual bloom.
With the obsession that today’s media has with youth and appearance, you could be forgiven for thinking that it’s only the young who are looking for companionship, that dating is a young person’s game. Which of the following images do you think the media is more likely to use to accompany an article on online dating? At the same time, more older adults over 55 find themselves single and looking, either through divorce or the tragic loss of a husband or wife they loved for many years.
We are all living decades longer than we once did, and are staying fitter, healthier (and in some cases, friskier) further into our wisdom years than ever before.