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It cannot be rushed, underestimated or faced alone anymore than the early emergency stages of recovery could be when the addict was hitting bottom.This time around, however, the addict has a true shot at real joy – if he or she can trust the process.Which is why the point you're trying to make is not a recommendation -- it's not supposed to be a scenario to begin with, and if it's happening, the help has no control in the first place.Hi Autumn, My experience with slaa is that disclosure comes at a certain point when getting to know someone. Admitting to this kind of addiction is very different from substance addictions.This article is about sober dating, and what it should look like.When to reveal is something that the addict and their sponsor would discuss. Not everyone will understand, or some people may abuse the person's addiction.Read more about healthy dating for sex addicts in my book "Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex in Recovery from Sex Addiction" and my daily meditation book "Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence" Sex addicts use behaviors rather than substances as coping mechanisms.
Of course, these choices brought the addict much pain, and now post-recovery, he or she must tolerate a temporary loss of autonomy, sharing with a therapist, a 12-step group sponsor and even a support group the everyday minutia of their dating process.
If the addict is out there doing things with more victims, he/she is not under control and is not listening to the advice of anybody in the help groups anyway.
There is no "recommended scenario" where the sex addict is continuing with his/her addiction and simply telling everyone he encounters that he's an addict and still trying to have sex.
The author never said potential victims don't deserve full disclosure.
In fact, the author would recommend the addict to stay away from further encounters so there could be no more "potential victims" until the problem is solved.