What to say on online dating sites
Ask open questions that require more than a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ reply, because these are more interesting to answer.
So, “You looked like you were having a blast on your skiing holiday! Where would you most like to go skiing that you haven’t been yet? One hundred words is about right: long enough to include a compliment, to say what caught your eye about their advert, mention something you have in common, and to ask a leading question.
If their profile made you laugh out loud in the middle of Tesco, say it.
If you despaired of ever meeting a woman who loved football (even if you question her choice of team), say it.
Stick to neutral hours, like lunchtimes and early evening.
Ideally, write it before you leave the house to do something interesting. Have fun writing your emails, and enjoy the process of meeting someone new.
Don’t feel you have to sell yourself or introduce yourself too much – as we’ve said, they’ll definitely visit your profile and read about you there. Plus, the shorter your first email, the more intriguing you’ll be. You might say you’re busy and leading a fun, full life, but if you’re sending emails at 9.00 on a Saturday night, how busy can you be..?
Similarly, if you claim to love your job but the time stamp on your message says you sent it at 9.30 on a Monday morning, your reader might doubt your career ethic.
Avoid giving any personal information before you have met and established a firm connection.
Instead of sitting down and writing a well thought out message they send a generic email that could be sent to absolutely anyone.
While casting your net wide may eventually land you a good catch it’s more likely to leave you with an empty net.
People want to know that you read their profile and that something unique about them caught your attention.
Before you write a message to a match ensure that you’ve really read their profile and found something in it that you connect with.